Hominy & Hash
MY PREFERENCES AND OPINIONS (OFF THE RECORD)
by Constance Daley
American Reporter Correspondent
St. Simons Island, Ga.
ST. SIMONS ISLAND, Ga. -- Do I think it's wonderful to see women delivering the sports scores with the play-by-play as well? And do I love seeing the ups, downs and probabilities of the stock market announced by a cookie-cutter analyst from her desk on the floor of the New York Stock Exchange?
No. A decidedly loud No. Would I like my daughters to have those opportunities? A firm no. No. I would not like that. What am I saying here? Well, it's not that I want to keep women in their places. I don't know what those places are, for sure. I certainly want them to spread their wings and soar; find joy, find happiness, be all they can be and fulfill the promise of their destiny.
What I am saying here is that I prefer a man delivering the news, sports, stock reports, and, now that we're on the subject of delivering, I prefer a man suited up to deliver my babies, that's all. Yes, I prefer male doctors and female nurses. I don't care if women become doctors and I'm proud of those who do but I personally prefer a man. That goes for male dentists and female hygienists.
Remember, as you read, these are preferences and opinions. I like a male vet for dogs, female vet for cats. That seems logical to me. But it makes no sense other than what I feel makes me comfortable. If I have it in my power to place myself within my comfort zone, well I say to myself: Go for it!
Is the way I was reared determining what I prefer? Is it too late to change my ways? Would I be happier? I have four daughters. Would I not want them to follow their dreams and if their dreams took them to broadcast journalism would I not support that? Yes, no doubt about it. (I might suggest she avoid cookie-cutter imaging so she could stand apart, but perhaps that's just my opinion.) Quite frankly, I prefer a male dominated world. This is not to infer that I believe men to be superior, or more intelligent. Certainly not. Hardly that. Ask any woman if she could actually believe that!
I will get on a bus if the driver is a woman, but I'd prefer a man at the wheel. To belabor this further, let me say if I should ever call the police, I would expect a man to show up at my door. I prefer a man's handshake, assuming he's got a firm grip. I prefer to see men tending bar unless barmaids are part of a theme atmosphere.
That's strictly a preference and not an opinion suggesting women have no place around demon rum. No, women can be wherever they choose; but I prefer to see men in what I call traditional male occupations - albeit occupations that have been unisex for 35 years.
I put my life in the hands of male doctors and I prefer male military. I would not deny a woman's right to serve her country but there are other ways. The book jacket pictures a woman soldier in full regalia; the title is "LOVE MY RIFLE MORE THAN YOU," BY Kayla Williams. What is wrong with that picture? Is it her being in uniform? No. I'm used to seeing that. What's wrong is what she's saying.
I have been around soldiers in three or four military engagements since World War II when my five brothers fought. Never, I mean never, did I hear anyone say I love my rifle. I've heard them say they love their country, they love the camaraderie with their fellow soldiers. They love the privilege of fighting for what we believe in and protecting their loved ones at home. Some of them even agreed that they joined the Navy to see the world. But none of them ever mentioned their rifles - except in emphasizing how they'd spend their days cleaning it.
I would never hold back from anything because a woman was at the controls but I'm more comfortable if I don't see the pilot on my commercial flights. I haven't yet heard a woman saying: "This is your pilot, we are flying at... ."
As I said, these are my opinions and as I've learned since childhood, we're all entitled to our own opinions. None of this babble would keep me from voting for the best person for the job and I'd be more inclined to carefully study the subject. I would not vote for, nor against, a candidate because of gender but candidacy should not be determined because "We need a woman" in the job for balance. No, we need sharp, unbiased, clearheaded people to represent all of us.
In families, circumstances have placed man as both the head and the heart of the family and children have been raised admirably by a man alone. And, other circumstances have placed women in those places I still like to call "a man's world," and it's worked very well for them to be breadwinners and heart warmers, too. In each case, it's a challenge.
For the most part, traditional roles which were early on determined by gender appear to work better. (In my humble opinion, that is.) For over three decades with equal opportunity in full swing, we've been witness to lifestyles that developed during that time.
Unfortunately, it's only in a small number of states that law allows same sex lifetime partners to enjoy a full fledged civil union with benefits - an arrangement that is just fine with me. It would be unanimously accepted if the words "marriage" and "wedding" were not part of the mix. It's a union, yay! Have a party, yay! But don't call the ceremony a wedding, long recognized as a union between a man and woman, not androgynous persons. Have what it is; say what it is. But that's just my opinion. Fight for what you want - my opinions are "off the record."
I say I like things the way they used to be, but I don't mean "all things." I think hiding in closets out of fear of discovery by homophobic idiots who can't see that people can be different with differences having no impact on them personally (although I think they are afraid of just that) is more stupid than being whomever you are.
They say, as we get older, we say just exactly what we think. So, there. I have it off my chest. These are my opinions on the contemporary scene. I still believe in live and let live. And, although I would never actively call for supporters to rally around my flag, I do believe there are many out there with the same opinions - remaining in an intellectual closet similar to my own.
Along with my opinions and preferences, I'll admit to a prejudice. I have no problem with women hockey players. Well, that's because I gave birth to one and my prejudice leans toward my daughter and any other person pursuing whichever course they choose.
You may wonder how my daughter will feel about this column. Well, I raised her to respect other people's opinions. I have no doubt that she'll respect mine.